Blow his mind in the bedroom


Can we be brutally honest? As empowered as many sisters are in other areas of our lives, some of us can turn wimpy when it comes to pleasing our men in bed. We'd love to take the lead more often, but we feel timid, afraid or even ashamed once we get into the bedroom. We might even look at sex as a guilty pleasure. How do we break out of the intimacy rut that often leaves us playing follow the leader while he makes the first move?

Do you have to be a freak to make your man happy?

No, you don't--at least not all the time. Good old-fashioned sex is fine most of the time, but occasionally you should totally blow him away with your freaky side--just to keep him off balance and always looking forward to the next time you'll have sex. It's fun to keep him wondering what you'll do next.

What can you do for your man to really set off his nether regions in the bedroom?

Men like confident women who are willing to experiment. Let him know you can't wait to make love with him. Initiate sex. Strip his clothes off a piece at a time. Participate in the sexual experience. It's no time to be shy. He wants an active partner. Tell him you appreciate him and having sex with him--with words, moans, screams or other sexy sounds. Stimulate all his senses with scents, music, flavored lubes or food, sexy lingerie, and satin or good cotton sheets. Strip for him! Men love watching you undress; it's second only to intercourse.

How can a woman negotiate being a good girl while giving her man what he wants and needs in bed?

We need to get rid of the good-girl label. The good girl has always been the one who couldn't let her hair down and enjoy sex. Women should enjoy sex as much as men. Otherwise why bother?

If the lover is new, should a woman wait to show him that she really does have a naughty girl inside?

No way! Why wait? Show him right from the beginning that you are a sexual woman. He needs to know what it's going to take to keep you happy in the bedroom. If you play coy in the beginning, you risk his getting turned off or suspicious when you start showing him the real you.

What if he loses respect for you?

Then he is not worth your energy, and it's best to find out early in the relationship rather than later.

More questions? Yes we will have more of this in our next article.